One of the hardest things to do for many is learning to love yourself unconditionally. I’m here to share that it is possible to love yourself. Even with years of people constantly attempting to bring you down. You can learn how to put aside those memories and move on with your life. In many ways, people are not necessarily trying to bring you down. They usually have good intentions, thinking that they are helping you by telling you what they really think about who you are and what you do.
Steps to Get Started
1. Stop worrying about what others think. You can only change what is in your control. I have had to learn that what other people think and feel about me is not my problem. It is theirs. If they choose not to get to know you, it is their loss.
2. Start to acknowledge yourself by looking in the mirror each morning and saying the words “I love you and who you are” to yourself. Do it daily while placing one hand on your heart. Take a deep breath and say it out loud. It can become a daily affirmation. Eventually your heart and mind will catch up with each other and you begin to believe it.
3. Choose joy even when you’re not feeling joy. Studies have shown that a person can shift their mood by simply changing what their inner voice is saying. Tell yourself that you are happy. Being happy as often as possible is important when developing a self-love practice.
“When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don’t know you think.”- Beyonce
You will naturally become your best self not only for yourself but it will be apparent to others that you know. Friendships will develop easier. The biggest advantage is the sudden rise in confidence that you will experience.
Another way that I have found solace in loving myself is by helping others. Whether it is volunteering or you simply reaching out to people in need, this can be quite fulfilling and will lift you up that much further. When you are feeling down about yourself, being around others can bring you out of that funk. It builds a sense of community with an added benefit of helping people get closer to the solutions that they are looking for.
You Have the Power
You have the power to choose love for yourself. When you stand in your own power, you take away the ability of others to bring you down. They will no longer have the power because it now belongs to you. Just keep using the information from this blog to keep reinforcing your ability to love yourself.